Every woman who wants kids likes to think she’ll have a perfect pregnancy - no complications, and certainly no residual health problems for her or the child. But, even if you don’t include the vomiting, there is no such thing. And you can’t guarantee that you or your future child will be born (and live) “without a hitch”.
What really gets me is when a woman who’s had health problems, even Before pregnancy, decides to have a child. And even after that child is born prematurely and is in the hospital for months, and the woman has to stay in the hospital long after the birth because of complications of her own, what amazes me MORE is that she decides to get pregnant Again!! I have to wonder, too, about the father. (Doesn’t it bother him, seeing her go through so much physical and mental anguish? Why doesn’t he object to the whole idea?) It’s a serious ethical question: when you’ve had That much difficulty in a pregnancy, Do you try again? Should you try again? What are the pros to this plan? Does she hope that the next time won’t be so bad?
And by the way, she did get pregnant again. And a month and a half later, she’s still basically on nutritional and absorption support via ports and tubes. Why?? Did the thought never occur to her that she could have just adopted, or simply not had another child?
I feel mean saying I don’t pity her. I mean, it’s a terrible situation, but it’s not like there isn’t birth control today, and not like she doesn’t know how to use it. All of this pain could have been avoided. And yet she chose it anyway. Can you really feel bad for a person who stared at a brick wall and ran into it at 70 mph on purpose Anyway - as though, maybe it wouldn’t hurt this time…??
It just really makes me wonder why people go through THIS much to have a child. No one would have begrudged her if she would have stopped after the first kid. I don’t know. Maybe people think that you’re not really “a woman” if you haven’t undergone a certain amount of agony in childbirth at least once. I, however, think a little common sense would go an awfully long way. Don’t you think…?