Every woman who wants kids likes to think she’ll have a perfect pregnancy - no complications, and certainly no residual health problems for her or the child.  But, even if you don’t include the vomiting, there is no such thing.  And you can’t guarantee that you or your future child will be born (and live) “without a hitch”.

What really gets me is when a woman who’s had health problems, even Before pregnancy, decides to have a child.  And even after that child is born prematurely and is in the hospital for months, and the woman has to stay in the hospital long after the birth because of complications of her own, what amazes me MORE is that she decides to get pregnant Again!!  I have to wonder, too, about the father.  (Doesn’t it bother him, seeing her go through so much physical and mental anguish?  Why doesn’t he object to the whole idea?)  It’s a serious ethical question: when you’ve had That much difficulty in a pregnancy, Do you try again?  Should you try again?  What are the pros to this plan?  Does she hope that the next time won’t be so bad?

And by the way, she did get pregnant again.  And a month and a half later, she’s still basically on nutritional and absorption support via ports and tubes.  Why??  Did the thought never occur to her that she could have just adopted, or simply not had another child?

I feel mean saying I don’t pity her.  I mean, it’s a terrible situation, but it’s not like there isn’t birth control today, and not like she doesn’t know how to use it.  All of this pain could have been avoided.  And yet she chose it anyway.  Can you really feel bad for a person who stared at a brick wall and ran into it at 70 mph on purpose Anyway - as though, maybe it wouldn’t hurt this time…??

It just really makes me wonder why people go through THIS much to have a child.  No one would have begrudged her if she would have stopped after the first kid.  I don’t know.  Maybe people think that you’re not really “a woman” if you haven’t undergone a certain amount of agony in childbirth at least once.  I, however, think a little common sense would go an awfully long way.  Don’t you think…?

Um… no.

Dear new mother (of second child),

Please don’t post on Facebook about the people who generously donated breastmilk in lieu of yours for your baby to drink.  I didn’t need another reason to gag today.




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"To him she seemed so beautiful, so seductive, so different from ordinary people, that he could not understand why no one else’s heart was wild with the breeze stirred by her sighs, why everyone did not go mad with her movements, the flight of her hands, the gold of her laughter. He had not missed a single one of her gestures, not one of the indications of her character, but he did not dare approach her for fear of destroying the spell."

Gabriel Márquez

Just… don’t.

If I’m hanging out with another musician, it really annoys me when they talk about “how great of a violinist [so and so] is” - especially when it’s a mutual friend and there is NO practical or productive reason to say so.  Are you saying I’m a shit violinist?  Why are you telling me how great this other person is, and then don’t even Bother to compliment my playing??

Seriously.  I’m a woman, and I’m an artist.  So if you think you can just say that and Not annoy me, you’re wrong.  I take my art Personally.  Also, I AM a better violinist.  And you, sir, suck at life.

Men who want kids, and the women who don’t love them…

Whenever I tell a guy I don’t want kids, and he seems surprised, I’m dumbfounded.  I mean, helloooo… Don’t men realize that - after all the time that birth control has been around now - it’s about damn time that women realize they have a choice??