I think childfree people are the most daring of all.  I went to a party recently - attended by mostly people my parents’ age - and someone’s kid brought their baby.  Everyone there complimented its cuteness at Least once while making baby faces at it, and then continuing to relate stories of their own children.  In fact, I noticed that Most conversations revolved around people’s children.  I thought to myself, “someday, I will be this age, and people will ask about my children; and I will have nothing to say… until I start telling them what Else I did with my life.”  At which point, out of snobbery or non-understanding, I will probably not be very popular at the party.  Then I think, even my older life will not consist of parties so dreary.

But I think it’s almost safe, to just have kids, settle down, do the “normal” thing.  What about traveling the world - in your thirties instead of your seventies?  What about having a career that many would die to have… but won’t because having kids holds them back?  Hell, what about sex anytime and anywhere my future husband and I want, as LOUD as we want??  There is more to life than just child-raising.

Be anything but ordinary.  Be nothing but yourself.


Falling in and out of sleep,
In that place where
Reality and dreams

And perhaps later
You cannot be certain
Which was which,
I still glance at your

Side of the bed…
You’re never there –
But I can still
Hear your breathing…

Even while the
Absence of you
Leaves my sheets cold
Where once there was

Warmth –
The feel of your
Pressed against my back –

And arms that held me,
Even while the
Heart inside you
Never loved in return.


"Even While", a poem written by me.

… yet

Yes I’ve thought about dating guys who look like younger versions of Robert Downey Jr. and Chris Evans.

No, it’s never worked out for me.

New research shows Pro-life people only have sex to procreate, have really boring sex lives.



More at 10. 

is this at all surprising?

The whole natural family planning thing bothers me, anyway.  The implication that sex should only be had at certain times, MAYBE, especially when you’re married??  Um, I’m sorry.  No.  I don’t know about the rest of the world, but part of being married should be having sex whenever both partners consent to it; not so everyone else can tell us when to have sex, and/or then tell me to pop out babies like my life has no other purpose.

This “sex only at certain times of the month (maybe) or else sex to procreate” gives Christians a bad name.  God gave us sex just like He gave us contraception; please use them both wisely.